Anyone who knows much about youtube videos knows that few people would watch anything 27 minutes long unless it was exceptional. When a friend referred the latest hot wedding proposal video my way this week, she said, “It’s 27 minutes long, but you’ll like it. Watch it.”
So, I did.
The 27 minutes entailed the prospective groom convincing a restaurant that doesn’t usually open on a Saturday night to open on a Saturday night. Then he rigged the scene with enough hidden cameras to tape the impending action from nearly every angle. He then convinced his prospective fiancée to meet him there, even though “he was running late.”
When she arrives to a candle lit empty restaurant, she is seated at a table and a large screen television is rolled out and begins to play in front of her. In dual screen action, the video plays, with a thumbnail screen of the girl watching it. The video first features the soon-to-be-groom going on a syndicated radio program to ask her to marry him. That effort results in a choreographed fail as the equipment malfunctions. Then he dresses in a series of various costumes with backup dancers (also in full costumes) through four lip-syncing performance of four different songs — all deemed to be “not quite right.” Then, he orchestrates a large-scale flash mob that does an intricate routine to “I think I want to marry you.” Also not right.
A car chase scene (in a Porsche) follows the flash mob and, finally, he appears at said restaurant in person and parades all of his and her family members in (with a short break for a video clip of him at the girl’s father’s grave as he asked her dad for permission to marry her). Finally, he asks her to marry him.
The production quality of the video is superb — like the movie it was designed to be, fun to watch and over-the top, but it was pure once-in-a-lifetime craziness.
Let it be known that I am all for guys going all out to make the most of a memorable occasion, but I also believe we need to cut normal guys with normal means some slack and set realistic expectations for the unmarried among us by saying, “Life isn’t like the movies often. There may be a perfect, choreographed moment every now and then, but guys don’t have Porsche car chase scenes to meet you at restaurants they coaxed open based on their charm alone so they can present your favorite flower and promise to whisk you away for a lifetime of perfectness.”
While I wish a lifetime of happiness for that couple and the rest of the budding romances out there, they need to know that very little of real life is like that — and that’s not a bad thing.
Much of life consists of getting up when the alarm goes off, finding clean, unwrinkled clothes, going to work, having a few laughs with friends and loved ones, finding something for dinner and realizing that it’s been a while since you gave the sink a good scrub. Granted, there are some spectacular moments mixed in, but life isn’t choreographed — and as much as you love a guy or a guy loves you, it’s not going to be like the movies often.
Chances are, as long as you’re looking for complete moral and emotional support from a single person, you’ll wind up disappointed and frustrated. Know that going into a relationship and things just work better. No matter how much you love someone, you still need to build and nurture solid relationships with others — and that includes the girl whose fiancé made a 27-minute proposal video!